tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post2819751709215738822..comments2023-09-01T06:09:24.330-07:00Comments on another shot: Does Family Background matter?doll (retired blogger)http://www.blogger.com/profile/04617294319074603189noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-70056650575221354252011-11-05T15:29:47.313-07:002011-11-05T15:29:47.313-07:00Well it matters a whole lot. Point of correction, ...Well it matters a whole lot. Point of correction, in Naija you are not marrying the man or woman but his or her family and it is so damn annoying.<br /><br />www.personaedeve.blogspot.comThinking out aloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09012596657143126122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-73571216502951498762009-03-02T16:13:00.000-08:002009-03-02T16:13:00.000-08:00Hey babe, i've done the 2nd installment!Hey babe, i've done the 2nd installment!Buttercuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00182390815082496865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-69001936214640189592009-03-02T07:22:00.000-08:002009-03-02T07:22:00.000-08:00Yea i bliv family bckgrnd matters to a certain ext...Yea i bliv family bckgrnd matters to a certain extent, and everyone is different! Love conquers everything, I believe..ShadeCrownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07645911407732134852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-91432606806095314782009-02-27T13:37:00.000-08:002009-02-27T13:37:00.000-08:00i totally echo jaguda..i totally echo jaguda..Buttercuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00182390815082496865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-89612932143921351212009-02-27T01:54:00.000-08:002009-02-27T01:54:00.000-08:00I believe family backgroud matters o. The way you ...I believe family backgroud matters o. The way you were brought up, the values instilled almost always determine how you run your home. A person from a broken home should work hard to make his different or else you see yourself towing the same lane effortlessly.Caelestis Angelus!https://www.blogger.com/profile/14798709450891805030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-32357012015158194502009-02-26T18:24:00.000-08:002009-02-26T18:24:00.000-08:00Family background, tribe etc matters..the more dif...Family background, tribe etc matters..the more different you are the more you see things differently and the more obstacles you have because you have been raised differently..However, the individual character is what matters most...whats the point of marrying someone with d same background etc but has a horrible character?If that individual from a diff tribe,background etc has qualities that are compatible with you and vice versa then you are all set!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-2439990970299003742009-02-26T05:45:00.000-08:002009-02-26T05:45:00.000-08:00It is good to think about these things for sure, b...It is good to think about these things for sure, but we cannot allow them to limit us. My good friend is Igbo married to Yoruba. Yes, there are differences, but at the end of the day, they love each other and understand that those differences will not be a hinderance to their union. What about me? I am married to someone from the Commonwealth of Dominica, a tiny Carribbean island.<BR/><BR/>It is possible to be in a happy and satisfactory marriage with someone from a different tribe, religion etc. If you are ever in that situation, I am sure you will be just fine.<BR/><BR/>Take care and Oh, BTW, shebi you live in Lagos? Come check out the <A HREF="http://www.nigeriancuriosity.com/2009/02/nigerian-curiosity-of-2008.html#comments" REL="nofollow">Nigerian Curiosity of 2008</A>. If you live in a Lagos, then you know who the person is and can share your thoughts on the issue. Would be greatly appreciated.SOLOMONSYDELLEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17564768670896215900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-76222776159738022452009-02-26T00:31:00.000-08:002009-02-26T00:31:00.000-08:00family background can affect two ways, negatively ...family background can affect two ways, negatively or positively. it depends on choices made. and i feel you on all that kneeling as Caveman is Yoruba and I now work in a state that has more yorubaness than lagos. i no fit kneel oZayzeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11907709431101967094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-86997575524147493452009-02-25T19:32:00.000-08:002009-02-25T19:32:00.000-08:00It definitely does. But isn't the only factor.It definitely does. But isn't the only factor.Jen Jumahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05911167785510445457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-3411272446997511212009-02-25T13:10:00.000-08:002009-02-25T13:10:00.000-08:00It matters oh. It doesIt matters oh. It doesAfrican Weight Loss Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11743953242692193235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-86228746945847005162009-02-25T11:17:00.000-08:002009-02-25T11:17:00.000-08:00Yes family background does matters, that is where ...Yes family background does matters, that is where ones values, principles et al are shaped. <BR/><BR/>Religion, Ethnic, Culture are subjective though each family differs in them (and 'tis pretty important to be sure one is comfortable with the other in respect to these 3) yet still, they do not define or even make the core values of a person. <BR/><BR/>The family does.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-75800586323855920662009-02-25T07:06:00.000-08:002009-02-25T07:06:00.000-08:00Wow Doll,First time here and this is good lady.Hmm...Wow Doll,<BR/><BR/>First time here and this is good lady.<BR/><BR/>Hmmmn, for someone who has seen and experience a lot in my short years of co-habitation with wifey, I will say that background is very important in choosing one's <BR/>partner. <BR/><BR/>Oh yes Love conquers all, but at what cost?<BR/><BR/>Checking out the family's background is so important. Once you spot the Mum and Dad, you would have taken a pip into the future of your future partner.<BR/><BR/>Also a tip, take it from me - parents call on your partner is usually spot on.<BR/><BR/>Nice topic...am off to the previous entryJShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16964277972573147908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-88247589523737377002009-02-25T06:32:00.000-08:002009-02-25T06:32:00.000-08:00i feel u on the diff culture thin. my culture has ...i feel u on the diff culture thin. my culture has no qualms wit young ones greetin an elder while standin. i even hi five my gradmother. i would be doomed if i end with a yoruba mananonymous gal(retired blogger)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12768071439274705742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-50185892417884575612009-02-25T06:06:00.000-08:002009-02-25T06:06:00.000-08:00I typed a long comment and blogger spoke plenty En...I typed a long comment and blogger spoke plenty English.<BR/>Background matters a lot. Everyday, I realise how I am really my mother's child, and my hubby,his mothers. It takes understanding, patience,tolerance love etc to live in peace despite the many differences.For the love of mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13099341538591761136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-69979458135420943142009-02-25T01:18:00.000-08:002009-02-25T01:18:00.000-08:00love conquers alllove conquers allLGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922097191529698792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-15600369342612233032009-02-24T19:29:00.000-08:002009-02-24T19:29:00.000-08:00All those things matter because even if he loves y...All those things matter because even if he loves you, his culture, family, religion can permit him to do some things that you cannot understand if you're not part of that ethnic group or faith.<BR/><BR/>Like my Aunt who was married for almost 30years enjoying her husband only for him to marry a 20yr old. His family supported it and so did his culture and religion.<BR/><BR/>They were in love but see what other factors did. If she were from the same backgroud as him, she would not have been hurt as she is now.Abujamaidenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10451546011919502767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-27355084839014759962009-02-24T15:49:00.000-08:002009-02-24T15:49:00.000-08:00Doll love,Come on over.Doll love,<BR/><BR/>Come on over.Naija Bloggers Awards 2009https://www.blogger.com/profile/18322927133924274151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-85293309961537572222009-02-24T14:08:00.000-08:002009-02-24T14:08:00.000-08:00I think it matters a lot more than we think. Peopl...I think it matters a lot more than we think. People grow up doing somethings then all of a sudden can not adjust to a different way of doing things when they get married. <BR/><BR/>People can change but a bit of investigation does can not hurt so you know what the questions you should be askingChookzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06081622290571986398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-66624872425538328972009-02-24T08:15:00.000-08:002009-02-24T08:15:00.000-08:00the family background matters, but u should also b...the family background matters, but u should also be able to look at things objectively. because a person comes from a broken home doesnt mean they'll do the same. some times children learn from the mistakes of their parents instead of emulating. <BR/><BR/>However, family background in terms of religion, relatives etc is important cos u know in Nigeria if u marry a man, u marry his whole family as well.bumighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16921134538404613210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-29361336597046282952009-02-24T08:11:00.000-08:002009-02-24T08:11:00.000-08:00for me i agree tht family background matas but the...for me i agree tht family background matas but the individual is the ultimate.....ur marriage is in ur hands, if u see marriage as im in it and i have to make work.....it'll work...it'll be hard very hard.but wish urself the bestmiz-cynichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14983607665367724958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-29919131205848813942009-02-24T07:45:00.000-08:002009-02-24T07:45:00.000-08:00What matters most is the person, Yes his family, u...What matters most is the person, Yes his family, upbringing, culture, religion etc will shape the person they become but ultimately it is who they become that matters the most.Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06064246506516947635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-18847929825760023392009-02-24T07:36:00.000-08:002009-02-24T07:36:00.000-08:00well it definitely matters but an individual will ...well it definitely matters but an individual will have to decide[circumstances permitting of course] whether he/she will allow the background to influence the future. for instance just because your dad beat your mum doesnt mean you should beat your wife, or because your husband comes from a poverty stricken home means he wont be rich[MKO Abiola]. you have people who grew up in broken homes and blame everything on that.....you also have Obama who is a product of a broken home. the choice to an extent....is YOURS.Jagudahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17716218043798657772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-43302256656429963942009-02-24T07:09:00.000-08:002009-02-24T07:09:00.000-08:00It does to some extent. The more one thinks about ...It does to some extent. The more one thinks about it though, the less one sees.TBRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03944972399736081578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-14930405122614912012009-02-24T06:39:00.000-08:002009-02-24T06:39:00.000-08:00yes oh,background matters a lot.infact i have an u...yes oh,background matters a lot.<BR/>infact i have an uncle dat disqualified my beau cos his parents are separated.i had to argue it out that his father remarried and has been married for over 30years now.maybe his mum was d mistake...his fathr has a good heart...laods of crap i musta said sha to get approval but it defntly matters!<BR/>my beau beahves like his dady,my brothers are like my daddy,me am like my mama.....<BR/>of wchs,where's d concluding episode from the violent men series?QMoneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01569868117819979932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7899449235318590015.post-23081521795093283262009-02-24T06:11:00.000-08:002009-02-24T06:11:00.000-08:00Family background really matters.I see myself doin...Family background really matters.<BR/><BR/>I see myself doing things my mama did 4 my papa, and expecting my hubby to do things my papa did for my mama.<BR/><BR/>You can imagine if any of these involves, sleeping around, abuse...<BR/><BR/>on tribal issues, you'll not have to do much kneeling after a while. its usually when you are still a girlfriend. When you become wifey, you are a madame.O'Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07678018050951152616noreply@blogger.com