Wednesday, May 23, 2012
why are you not pregnant?
So it’s been almost 4 months of marriage! And of course the why are you not pregnant / are you pregnant matter is popping up already?
Last weekend one of my best friend / maid of honor got married, I happened to be sitting on the same table with my mother and we had this conversation:
Mum: How are you now how is the hubs? Why dint he come for the wedding?
Me: He is fine, mummy, he is out of town, work!
Mum: Ok, are you pregnant?
Me: What? No! why? Do I look pregnant?
Mum: No! just that it’s been almost 4 months already
Me: ah, ok, we don’t plan to have kids now, I told you na! maybe next year
Mum: I reject it for you, what do you mean?
Me: We are not ready jo, emotionally or financially, besides we are enjoying our alone time
Mum: Alone time? what does that mean? Better do this thing now, that I’m around to help you
Me: you are just 51! Mummy, where do you plan on going, that you won’t be around to help me
Mum: DO it now oooooooooooooooo! It’s too risky to wait. you can have one, then rest
Me: Mummy, leave me alone jo, dint I tell you I was going for interviews, I’m about to change jobs, who would hire me if I’m pregnant
Mum: I hear you o! but family over career. Hope you ar not taking pills? My hand is not there o!
Me: o lawd, mummy! I'm not taking pills let me go and dance in with the bride
ESCAPE!!!!!
Last month, my mother in law was returning to America, she stays 6 months there and 6 months here, at the airport, she cornered me to have this conversation:
MIL: Better do quick and come to America to give birth now that I’m still there o, so I can help you
Me: Ok ma
MIL: All that one my son is saying, next year or 2 years’ time, don’t listen to him o! as women we have our ways, just do what you need to do. Once it has entered it has entered
Me: Ok ma, safe journey
Phew!!!!!!
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39 comments:
I couldn't help laughing...
Wish I could be of help...I'll just wish you luck...Moms will be moms
x
lwkm............mothers enn.
before marriage, its "you better marry now, so that people wont start talking"
after marriage, " have kids now so ill see my grandkids"
after first kid, "have more now, and rest later"
you can never satisfy them
Mothers are funny sha, my mom would also do the same.
When my mom starts with me, i just listen to her ideas and suggestions, doesn't mean i always agree with her but that's practically the only way to make peace and it works!
Thanks for posting.
and everyone wonders why I am stalling and refused to go back to Nigeria.
first pressure to get married then pressure to have kids. It is not easy biko... hope you are enjoying married life sha.
But this one that your own mum has also cornered you, it wont be easy oh.
Lol! they will always ask. and when u have one, they'll ask when ure going tohave another one....they never stop!
oh, and i need to ask u some questions. whats ur email?
this made me laugh, mothers are all the same honestly! at least your mother in-law knows her son's plans and is not harrasing you just kinda suggesting!..lol
LOL, thank God its only the mothers that are on your case. Some ppl arent that lucky - Aunties, mums friends and even distant friends all lend their voices to the 'when e go be' cry!
My friend and her hubby wanted to wait a while b4 having kids like this too until my friend got this in church from one of her church girls
Church Gal - Babe how far na, anything yet
My friend - We still dey take our time.
Church mate - una dey take una time? When ur husband stomach dey grow instead of ur own!
That was it. Her resolve broke. My friend took in th very next month!
When it comes to marriage and pregnancy, everybody dey get wetin to contribute. mtchewww
Babe, i tagged u over at my blog. Hop over there and check it out, will ya?
I can tell you for free "the have one and rest" line is a Scam!!!
My mum said the same thing to me and she has been BUGGING my life since my son turned 9months.i told her i amw waiting till he's 2 and she drops lines every now and then!!
i even told her i want jus 2 kids so why the hurry and she's rejecting 2kids for me
as if she'll be the one to send them to school...lol
LOL @ the mothers-in-waiting
It's always nice to 'read' from you... xxxx
mothers! they sometimes get worried over nothing really. I wish you all the best ok?
LOL! Omg already? Lord! Good luck with fending them off for a year oh lol
Mothers will always be mothers. Sometimes i wonder if i will end up like that. I hope to be more sensitive. Sometimes that question evokes so much pain especially for the one who has been trying to no avail.
Hahaha Mothers o!
Hmmmph that question. I heard it too many times. After a while, people gave up on me. Lol. There's always so much pressure from parents etc and it's so sad when there are so many people who even want kids but are finding it difficult to have them.
HAHA OMG!
I wish my mom would have such a discussion with me...Laughter would just hurt me soo...lol
Just graduated and now everyone is talking Marriage...It has not been a week since the ceremony. I have not even picked up the diploma yet..lol
I stand by the wait a year after marriage... enjoy your time as wife... the moment you realize your pregnant you become Mother and that title will hold for another 18+ years!!
Best wishes!!
O lawd!!!! I remember clearly the last time I was on your blog it was about you just getting married so when I saw the title of your blog I did a double take! Are you serious!? I am so not looking forward to that! Goodluck with shielding all the comments.
Really?? already???? OMG!!!!! lol at least you are being a good sport about it.
Lol...typical! They expect you to be pregnant 1 hour after marriage!
this is funny as hell.
Burst out laughing!
No vex my sistah....couldn't help it!
You are being cornered to the wall by both MOTHERS!
Wishing you goodluck and happy married life....women!..ahahahaha
Interesting read. SO, this is the kind of pressure we're likely to face... hmmm...
- LDP
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!
he!he!!he!!!
get used to it and develop a thick skin towards the question, dont bother urself at all...dats d truth!!! after u've had one,they will start hounding u once d baby is 9mths for the next one.
me i have had one, and i am resting and deres nothing anyone can do abt it!!!!
Loool. African families and their pressures.
LOL
The pressure never stops dearie
Even after having a baby, it will be ..'You must try for a boy/ girl next'
Even when you have both...'it will be you cant stop at this number oh'....
You can never satisfy them
So funny...I can hear my mom saying the exact same thing about waiting to me. Whenever I've told her that I want to have some alone time after marriage but before kids she doesn't want to hear it.
Mind you, I don't have a husband o but just the thought that I wouldn't have a baby immediately upon marrying is upsetting to her.
"Hope you are not taking pills? My hand is not there o!" Too funny!
Nah wa ooo...pele
Take your time....do u!
LMMMAAAAOOOOOO....Nne, good luck o! U will need it!
I nearly doubled over in laughter. Your mother and mother-in-law are too much oh!
I'm cracking up at that "Once it has entered, it has entered"
It doesn't ever end does it.
Hope you're loving married life so far.
And so it will continue, LOL...the truth is that they're doing it will good intentions :)
muhahaha this was too funny but i am not surprised.
leave that "do one and rest" story they will still harass u for number 2. hehe
gotta love them mums!
This one is double barrel pressure from both sides. They mean well though.
hahahahaha! i swear this is hilarious. i mean really, i have to link it to my facebook for you. tooooo funny @ i hope you're not taking pills, my hand is not there o.
Oh dear! Has it started already? Lol...no mind them joo.
LOL this story got me laughing :)
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