Wednesday, September 3, 2008

SO I attended 2 bridal showers this week and its just Wednesday

Am not ready for marriage but these days I seem to always be talking bout marriage. I put the blame 100% on the alarming number of weddings I attended last month and the even scarier number am going to attend this month (all my salary these days goes to aso-ebi for real)No am not ready to be married but 2 many pple around me are getting married.

Anyways back to the main gist I attended 2 bridal showers earlier this week. It was so much fun with the usual girlie things, where did you meet, how and stuff.

Time comes for the married young women in our midst to give advice to the bride to-be. There were about ten married folks and they all spoke at length but one statement was common to all of them: “YOU DON’T KNOW YOUR MAN UNTIL YOU START LIVING WITH HIM” now that is some scary shit. How is it possible that the man you have dated (possibly for a long time), that you love, that loves you, that you have shared so many precious moments with will become a stranger just because you are now living under the same roof????? But for ten of them to say it I guess there must be some truth in it. SCARY DEFINITELY SCARY!!!!

You need to see us the unmarried ones scribbling on our notes like it was some lecture we will be examined on. Anyways with all the impeding marriages in blogville I may as well share what I took away (in my notebook) from this shower.

1. Marry a man that is absolutely crazy bout you (don’t compromise this)
2. All men are babies; pamper them and you will get your way
3. Never deny your husband sex and food even when you guys are not in best of terms (really?)
4. Make a conscious effort not to nag
5. Be submissive (don’t emasculate him)
6. Take care of your body and pay attention to your appearance (gym regularly, eat healthy, plan your meals, wear fine cloth, do fine hair styles etc)
7. Compromise (very important)
8. Be accommodating (if you are the quiet, stay at home person and your is the type that draw crowds, prepare to cook and clean after his friends all weekend; don’t chase him out)
9. Be efficient (house work, cooking, catering, pampering and all that can really be tiring esp. for a working wife)
10. Be prayerful and watchful (the onus is on the woman to not allow the devourer enter your home)
11. Have the mindset of “It will work” and “nothing is unresolvable”

14 comments:

Aphrodite said...

FIRST!!!!!

Aphrodite said...

Great marriage tips. Points noted.
Thanks girl.

Afrobabe said...

The one I will find difficult is
2. All men are babies; pamper them and you will get your way
It is well, we go try…

Sting said...

This is both very enlightening and scary.

Toluwa Lase said...

not ready 4 marriage either bt dt was good advice!

Parakeet said...

U've really done ur homework gurl...that's very nice. Thanks for sharing.

I guess what I heard abt babes in Nija and marriage is true then given all these weddings and bridal showers u've been attending. Getting married is the in thing now. I must marry by force or by fire...lol!

mizchif said...

Goodluck to all of them abt to weds o, i can't say i wish to be in their shoes just yet.

funny i was having a conversation with one of my guy friends today and he said that if his wife shd deny him sex without good reason, or stop taking care of herself i.e getting fat & ish, then he is officially licsenced to look outside. Ladies take note!!!

rayo said...

2, i recently learnt, it works lyk hell. 4 and 5 r so hard

Uzezi said...

the eleven commandments. thanks o!

by the way, u need to visit my blog asap. u r wanted there.

QMoney said...

thanks for sharing GAL,IT HELPS DAT ONE CONTINUES SEEING THESE THINGS

Lady Koko said...

GOOD TIPS!!!!!! i aint sure about GIVING HIM SEX WHILE Y'ALL AINT ON GOOD TERMS..BUHAHAHHA.....I'LL PROLLY JUST BE LIKE "EHN...SEBI ITS WOT U WANT..EHN TAKE IT" THEN I'LL OPEN MY LEGS AND LIE DOWN THERE...LOLOLOLOLO..AFTERALL HE IS MY HUSBAND..SOLE OWNER!!!!!!!!! BUHAHAHHHAHAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
P.S:XOXO

pink gloves said...

Some good advice. but i dont think it is a womans job alone to keep the devourer out. Naija women need to stop taking the blame and the men need to start taking responsibility for their actions abeg.
And pple need to start training and reminding their daughters that their places is not with other pples husbands.

1st here by the way. totally love it.

doll said...

Thanx babes

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

good points/tips.
but
the one about cooking for friends every weekend......that one is not going to happen unless i own a hotel, surely once in a while yes..but every weekend?????
I also think it is the onus of who ever is more likely to bring the devourer in to pray that the devourer does not come in...