There is this Hausa/ Arab family that used to live about 2 doors away from mine in an uncompleted building. Their dad was the gate man of the building. The woman had about 8 daughters, 3 were married. Being in interested in women issues as I am I took interest in the remaining 4. The oldest
Anyways Mumc and I started talking to her mum and prevailed on her to let her daughters go to school, how it was too early for them to marry and etc.
To cut the long story short
The other 4 girls Memunat 10, Miriam 9. Hauwa and her twin (Aisha) both 7 were quite enthusiastic about school. Unfortunately Aisha is crippled polio from birth so that was out of it). Their mum said she needed someone to help her with the household chores Memunat was elected for that so only Hauwa and Miriam could go to school.
Hauwa bless her soul has never disappointed me for one day. She comes to the house over the weekend shows me her school books, reads to me from the reader, brings her result home. She is a real sharp girl
The disappointment was
We got blamed. There is nothing her mum did not say. We should have let her marry her daughter off then…see now who is going to marry her.. she is now a laughing stock…the woman wept and wept. She took the girl for abortion sha. Now the others may have to stop school and get married. Its so sad and dissapointing
But I guess you can’t win them all
32 comments:
me 1st!
na wah oh,God will see the good of ur heart jare abi
mehn thats so sad...school was the only thing that could have saved those girls from a life of misery!!
true talk..u cant win them all!!
God has already blessed u'
this is so so sad...and i agree with TinTin that school was the only way out...
That's very sad how Fatima acted, but very brave what you guys did for them. I really hope her parents don't take the other two girls out of school.
they aborted the child? eya! I hope they didn't damage the girl's system.
They'll always look for someone to blame unfortunately.
why shld u be blamed? Getting her married off does not mean that she would have been less promiscuous but the difference is that they would have someone to accept the pregnancy.
I hope they don't withdraw the other kids from sch sha.
You definitely win some and lose some. What happened is unfortunate but each time you remember that you guys made the move of making the girls go to school, you will always feel like winners.
we all choose our own destinies
Fatima chose hers
but its unfortunate the effect it had on the other children
Wow that really sucks....its sad but ignorance played a huge role in this.
Well. We cannot win all of them. Fatima made the right choice for her own self. the sad part is the effect it will have on the other girls. But If they really want it, there is always a way. no be so?
really? in this day and age?
some people ruin it for others sha!
truth is, the trouble would have still happened whether you guys interfered or not. its sad it has to come to this.
is sad but like u said we cant win all the time,
hello gal
Thats just a darn shame abou Fatima. but na wa for the girl- she's gansta- getting some at that young age. And its a bigger shame that becos of her mistakes- her sisters may suffer the conciquences.
so sad
i am dissapointed
too bad
what can be done?
13yr old kid say i'm not ready for marriage, wat the heck does she knw... or
she wasnt ready to marry dat particular gate man, obviously there was another gate man smwhr wit better lines.
hey there r sm things u just cant control, u tried and dats all that shd matter
;-)
na wow..see opportunity for education dat dat girl just passed upon.. may God help us..
wat a shame. im okay thanks 4 checkin up on me
Fatima didnt show a good example at all.
Coming from the background she was, she should have had some more sense. Too bad on her younger ones.
Una try sha.
Oh so so sad.
So the man wey pregnant am go marry am now?
We can only do so much love....
THIS IS JUST TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO SAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GOSSSSSSSSSH LIKE?????????? *sigh*
p.s;xoxoxoxo
Guess you cant win them all.
But still you guys dont be weary of doing good.
It's not your fault...u really can't win them all.
Stories like this break my heart. I don't even know where to start. I am just bleeding for all the women/child who will never have the chance to choose their own paths.
Truly heartbreaking.
hey babe..just checking!
First off, how'd exams go? i dont know u well, but i know that u did well.
secondly, u love One Tree Hill? and reading?welcome to my world! i'm now into nip/tuck, having seen all seasons of one tree hill except the one they are currently shooting...lol
it's a shame about Fatima, wish Hauwa could keep going to school though. u must be prroud of urself for one thing though dear, u tried! u made an attempt. one can only lead the horse to the stream, it cant be forced to drink water!
so why didnt u take the bank job?
na wa oh,
People are not grateful at all o
Wow that is one sad story, for real. I don't even know what to say... I hope everyone involved is ok now. Shame on the man that got her pregnant.
ok don't take my tone for being mad but as long as we people cannot imagine a "cripple" going to school, we can never move forward. Her legs might be cripple, but her brains are not. There might be other reasons why she might not go to school but definitely not because she is cripple or handicapped. Lets not be one track thinkers.
OMG
I was doing some research on female genital mutilation and it is girls like Fatima that convince people that it's the way to go...Una try sha, Its not your fault she took it for granted.
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