Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Its beginning to feel like cheating

There is this guy “E” – used to be my friend…well still is my friend..but we’v taken it a notch higher…we talk on phone like 4 times daily and the night conversations are quite long…

We see every weekend (not my fault tho..we take weekend classes at the same place..that is how we met)

I find myself looking forward to these chats

He is single

He is intelligent

He is matured

He is a good xtian

He is nice and caring

He doesn’t know I have a boyfriend

He is not asking me out

But he fancies me (I think)

I feel like am cheating but am not am I?

34 comments:

LG said...

1sttttttttt

Jayla. said...

ermmmmm, its not exactly cheating but u know it could lead to something else.

~Sirius~ said...

Someone termed this "emotional cheating" Can't remember which blogger.

But girl, that's everything a girl does with her man.

LG said...

yep omoge i tink u r cheating
or wat wld ur reply be if ur bobo asks u dos question????? even sef d bobo nko? him no get babe???? wetin him dey find???

~Sirius~ said...

Just be careful.....* Any special reason why you haven't told him about your man?

NaijaBabe said...

hmmm

wordmerchant said...

I see slippery slopes..don't go down that route. Very hard to climb back up it.

O'Dee said...

I dont think it is cheating at the moment, but it can lead to...

Be careful.

Just...Toluwa said...

ryt now? no..later, maybe!

Qube The Wordsmith said...

culd lead to it...
u havta b honest wiv him n tell him abt ur boifriend

Parakeet said...

You've not cheated yet darling but u're heading there. But maybe you shud ask urself how come the person taking so much of ur time is this guy and not ur boyfriend. Are there wider factors u shud be considering here and more questions you shud be asking yourself about ur present relationship?

RocNaija said...

:-D @ Emotional cheating..
If your man knew about him would have an issue with it?
If you think 'Yes' then it's probably cheating.. and if you think 'no'.. then it isn't

Funms-the rebirth said...

lets call a spade a spade, ur spending more time with him than u would, a normal friend and from ur words, ur developing feelings thats why u never mentioned to him u had a bf...... its emotional cheating.......be careful... he may be getting a green light from u

BSNC said...

i dont think it is cheating. you are just spending time with a friend...

simeone said...

dont think you are yet..but does he know you have a guy..if he knows, then you might be the one leading him on...or is that posssible...lol

Doja said...

If you are not cheating you should not be feeling guilty.Hmmmmmm.

Shubby Doo said...

no you arent but that is how it starts

Afrobabe said...

well since he isn't even asking you out it can't be cheating...unless of course YOU fantasy about shagging him!!!

Lisa said...

If you are 2nd guessing and you have to ask for peeps opinions, then it probably isn't right. I have a very close friend of mine in your shoes, her bf's in Naija and there's this other guy she's been talking to. I see red lights but she doesn't. She says she feels so comfortable with him and nothing can take the place of her boyfriend. She says that they are just friends but she's taken a trip to go see him...personally I don't think it's right. Different strokes for different peeps. It doesn't seem like it's cheating but it can lead to it. Think about it and how you will feel if your bf was doing the same thing.

Everyone has said it all. Just thot I should share my friend's story. Hope it helps?

Repressed One said...

There is a reason you're asking about it...
There is a reason you haven't told him about your bf...
There is a reason you're spending more time with this non-bf...

Don't know what i'd call it but YOU know something ain't right.

Osondu Nnamdi Awaraka said...

Not really, but it's close...especially since you STILL haven't told him about your boo

Dabizniz said...

Only you can answer that question for sure even though you'd like to convince yourself otherwise...but I do think it is cheating once you can't wait to speak with him seeing that you do talk long into the night. And I am sure the conversation is not always about current affairs

Buttercup said...

as some have said, its not cheating but theres just a very thin line present..

be careful hon..

Abujamaiden said...

It can lead to something.

I think you should randomly mention "I'm going to see my boyfriend" when talking to this guy and see the reaction and what he does next.

Don't lead him on incase oh!

Chari said...

if it feels like it....then it is!

StandTall-The Activist said...

Not yet. Until both of you start acting on your feeling and having an affair...

Tell him about your bf

miz-cynic said...

not yet...but u soon will be.

Smaragd said...

err, hate to be a buzzkill but if u feel u are cheating? it's probably cuz u are "in a manner of speaking"

aloted said...

hmm i see fire signs....alarm bells are ringing in my head...

no dey play with fire oooooo...

be careful dia pls

aloted said...

and why doesnt he know about ur boyfy??

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

if it feels wrong....

rethots said...

...and i say; who qualifies cheating?

Hi Doll, you just did. Yes you are cheating; but, if you want to feel better, no you ain't cheating.

The third side of the coin (oops, hindsight of having read the post after this), we don't justy fall in love, we grow in love. What means i? With much investment emotionally (consciously or otherwise) love comes calling without warning.

Pronto, why you think you just might need a break from your 'man'? No, 'tis not wrong to want a break but, it just might be that your heart has travelled far along the other road.....

.....and she thinks, *should i call my mind to re-trace her steps?* You may not need to but,....

Confessions of a London gal said...

I always say, "Whatever you cant do in front of your man, Dont do it behind him"
That will help you know when you are starting to slip

shhhh...cough...wink...nudge... said...

You are so cheating. :-)