Tuesday, March 31, 2009

We are officially a break now

I asked for a break…. Our anniversary is in 2 weeks….14th of April to be precise…

I need to sort my head out….do I still want this…..can I spend the rest of my life with him….

I need to pray…..maybe should fast….

I cant get over the heart-wrenching way he sounded on the phone…he seemed so broken…so….he just couldn’t understand what I need a break for…maybe cuz I couldn’t explain it as well….in his opinion things couldn’t be better….

But then a man that cannot give a girl a 2 week break from a straight non stop 5 year relationship…is he in luv with her or obsessed with her???

I hate being the cause of someone’s pain

I cant concentrate at work…

37 comments:

Rose said...

Hopefully love...this break would grant you the clarity you need...to sort things out with your man...
We are here for you...if you need anything..

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~Sirius~ said...

The effects of "E"

The most important thing is YOUR happiness....

Everything happens for a reason.....he'd probably do the same if he had to.

Don't beat yourself up girl....it's your heart at the end of the day.

LG said...

take it easy on ursef dear'
like sirius said, its ur hapiness dat matters' hang in there

Gee said...

hopefully u use this break to see things clearly...im sure/hope u guys will b fine.
5 yrs....!
no joke o.

Austin said...

The is the effect of the other guy that just came on board abi???

dbthinks said...

Guess some time spent stepping back from the heat of the action to have a cold-eye review of the state of affairs must only be for the better... Read a quote on a blog yesterday that said something abt LDRs either fanning love into a roaring blaze or extinguishing it..

I think a break can also test your 'thing' in the same way... Feel for the dude tho....

Parrot said...

i hour ago and 8 comments already duh..babe 5 years straight..wat do u need a break for..i think for you to have been together for so long den you want to be with him

wordmerchant said...

eeya..take it easy sweetie.

BSNC said...

take it easy. the break will enable you see things clearly and see where you guyz stand. hopefully everything will fall into place

RocNaija said...

It's funny.. never believed in taking breaks in between r'ships..
If it's over it's over.. move on..
But I bet dude is hurting right now.. Hopefully you'll give him closure and let into where your mind is right now..

All the best!

Jayla. said...

Your happiness is all that matters.

If am honest, i don't think 2 weeks of break would be of much help. Deep down you know you have a decision to make but scared of how things might turn out. Messing with a 5 year bond aint easy but babe you have to do you and choose ur happiness

Olufunke said...

You keep on having doubts about your relationship with this guy.
You really you go ahead and get the break.....to get some clarity , and you should also pray to God for direction. You really should be convinced.

I only hope its not because of 'E' that you are asking for the break.

I feel for your guy though........

rethots said...

Yes, you sure need a break. Don't think at all for the duration of the 2weeks if at all you need to; just inform me and i shall help you out (thinking).

...and don't worry about "I hate being the cause of someone’s pain", guard your heart first of all.

Just...Toluwa said...

I personally dnt believe in breaks...i call them break ups. break in transmission disturbs the flow, and it cld never be d same wen u get back together...

Hope things work out for ya...

Dude prolly needs more info on y u want a break...obsessed? i dnt think so. As much as guys front to be hard, they r very emotional!

Repressed One said...

"But then a man that cannot give a girl a 2 week break from a straight non stop 5 year relationship…is he in luv with her or obsessed with her???"

Funny how we try to justify our actions. Like someone asked....5yrs? what do you need a break from?

Hopefully, you are able to be honest with him and yourself at the end of the 2weeks.

Take it easy.

Sha said...

wow...
5yrs is such a long time tho, by nw u shd knw where ure heading and be 100% sure... Oh well take it easy

miz-cynic said...

dont break up with this guy.pls...ur hurting him

Funms-the rebirth said...

take the break....... its better to have a broken rship than a broken marriage.......... its ur life and happiness.... It is well hun

Ladi said...

Maybe you have to really explain that you have good intentions....

Afronuts said...

Looks like things are not working out for u guys...

A break is really good for u but dont be in rush to conclude that E may be a better choice.
Its been proven that we always front our good sides when hanging around the opposite sex...

You need to know te bad sides too.
Like sirius said...ur happiness matters but I will also add, the happiness of others matter too.

Just be careful. Its all gonna be fine

Parakeet said...

Its love and commitment. I think this dude loves you to bit and I feel sorry for him but hey you need space you need space. I just hope things turn out for the best

Buttercup said...

"But then a man that cannot give a girl a 2 week break from a straight non stop 5 year relationship…is he in luv with her or obsessed with her???" - this just means he's scared it's going to be over, it doesn't mean he's obsessed..

i dont even know what to say..i wish u all the best babe..

Writefreak said...

Take some time, pray, ask God for answers and i hope you get them, something is prolly missing since you want a break...but maybe not..

but the fact that he's not wiling to let go so easily is not obsession, i was in a 6 yr relationship with my hubby...i wish you all the best!

QMoney said...

A break??i always call dat a break up oh!!
pray and fast if u need to ,wat do u mean a man dat cant give a gal a ........?
you've been at dis thing for a while?dont make excuses for him or u,dont make it look like he's obsessed,its his fault or even ur fault.
jus think harrrrrrd and do wat u gotta do
so wat happens wen u are married for 10years?would u need a break as well?
I can imagine d concentration thing.....jus be easy okay

Caelestis Angelus! said...

I believe you arent so into him anymore or there is just something else youll want from a relationship you arent getting. Sometimes, its hard to lay a finger on but thats where its headed. Ive been there before girl, he may be heart broken but if he isnt the ultimate one for you then God will sort him out. I hate to sound so brash but such is life girl.

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

hey sweetie. Do the best you can not to make his pain worse, but ultimately, if you need a break, you need one. Hopefully he will eventually understand that you have no intention to hurt him you just need space to figure things out.

Stay strong.

StandTall-The Activist said...

Take it easy. Sort yourself out. He might be afraid you wont come back but whatever u shd to do, make sure it was not done in haste

Uzezi said...

take it easy. just do what makes u happy. try and not feel pressured. but also examine urself. are u suddenly having this feeling for a break from him cos u really ain't sure anymore?

u can never go wrong with praying. so ask God to direct u

Uzezi said...

take it easy. just do what makes u happy. try and not feel pressured. but also examine urself. are u suddenly having this feeling for a break from him cos u really ain't sure anymore?

u can never go wrong with praying. so ask God to direct u

Tisha said...

i love your blog
but straight talk
if you want to break up
break up
don't leave him hanging if you
don't love him anymore whatever that means
i think you should pray and ask God
then ask yourself what you really want and think long-term like
50-60 years time
true love, no love never fails.

Buttercup said...

Hey babe..u ok?

aloted said...

kai i am just reading this now..is the two weeks over yet?? what have u decided...does this have to do with the other guy in your last post.

pray...


hmmm it is well!!!

ibiluv said...

dearie are you ok?

take care of thyself

Miss FlyHigh - LondonsNaijaQueen said...

awww hope all is well ?

Tee said...

*** ALERT:LONG COMMENT!****

I actually came across ur blog 2day and I have read it all.
I know u r probablly feeling like u r between a rock and a hard place.
Dunno if the 2wks is over, but whatever the case, Take time to sit back and identify what it is that u think you r missing in ur 5yr relationship that you are sure you would get elswhere. How Important is that thing to you?
I understand where u r coming from: He is insecure abt ur earning more than him n all. Be sure to talk to him and know in ur heart of hearts that it is not bcos of ur attraction 2 E that u feel u need to do this.
Whatever you do, listen to ur inner man, it would never lead u astray.
If you can, get a copy of this book, I am sure it would help. Every young woman's battle by Shannon Ethridge.If you get Every Woman's battle, it would be fine tho dat is tailored to married women.
I will keep you in my prayers.
It is well wiv u.
Hugs.