Monday, May 9, 2011

First Hurdle Crossed

Spoke with my father on Saturday. Apologized first before stating my point and I guess it was a typical “daddy afraid to lose daughter reaction”. Cuz he had met my boo on numerous occasions, infact after I went to meet his mum when she got back from the US, he came to meet my parents, though it was nothing formal.

Anyways, the conversation was weird. He asked me where we met and how we started dating, his strengths, his weaknesses, at least two quarrels we have had in he past and how we settled, his family, his relationship with his family, his educational and professional qualifications, how he got born again, his church, his ministry, his baptism, etc. This whole talk took more than two hours.
My dad told me that from the little interactions they have had, that he really likes him and he sounded really intelligent (cuz they were able to talk on numerous topics) compared to my ex (insert embarrassed smiley here) and he is happy cuz I’m intelligent and he knows I need a man equally or more intelligent so I can have a balanced marriage. He then prayed for me. I cried a bit. LOL

So he said the boyfriend can come anytime, so he is coming next weekend. I’m really relieved and thankful to my mom for the part she played in all of this.

Anyways, the day after my birthday / the proposal. The boyfriend’s family called me one after the other to wish me happy birthday and also to say congrats on the engagement. His mum said “my daughter, welcome to the family”. LOL. Its weird cuz I always wanted a sister (being the only daughter of my parents). Now I am inheriting 5 sisters (cuz he is the only son of his parents).

So my friend sent me her wedding excel sheet with the budget and detailed tasks( I want to be really organized plus i'm an accountant so…). Total amount was 5.5 million. And I was at the wedding it was very nice and classy but nothing out of this world. Chilled me out o!. I really don’t want the wedding to cost so much was thinking more of 3-3.5 million max (kitchen and upgrading bachelor's pad to habitable home plus honey moon inclusive). Anyways let us see how it goes.

29 comments:

Myne Whitman said...

Wow! That convo with your dad is the ish. The part that caught my eyes is about quarrels and how you reconciled. Believe me, that is so so important!

But 5.5M for wedding? Marriage nko? I guess it depends on the families and how much they can afford, but I'm a big believer in simplicity and saving. All the best o.

HoneyDame said...

AWwwww...I dont know the convo will go with my dad cos their will be ethnicity issues to trash too....:-o..I am soo not looking forward to it!!! But I got mushy reading yours sha.

ehnehn! really? Weddings cost that much? I think I'll just elope to a village and get wedded by the village vicar or something. choi! and then go with a modified version of SIsi Yemmie's advice sometime ago. You know, get wedded and be pregnant before I return to civilization. That way, nobody will be asking me for a huge wedding.
Please keep that spreadsheet, I might be requesting to take a look at it sometime... I am serious o

Goodluck with the preps..

Mwajim Al said...

WOW!!! Congrats :)

Just...Toluwa said...

Glad the "talk" went well.

so, 5.5 mulla? guess its savings time...!

Good luck!

Madame Sting said...

Na wa o. Wedding are expensive.

The Corner Shop said...

5.5! Wow? Good luck with that lol. Glad to know your family likes him oh

Adiya

Naijamum in L. said...

Good luck with the wedding.
5.5m ....phew! Please remember there is life after the wedding day oh!
The funny thing about weddings is that there is always something more you could have/ should have done...!

Take care

P.E.T. Projects said...

Finally... im glad ur dad has finally come around!
5.5m is expensive but I guess the family's really laarge. You must ensure hubby-to-be is not the one dropping all that else u'll be putting a strain on his life savings!

Wish u luck dear, keep us up-to-date on the prep.

Ibhade said...

Congratulation once more..glad you have passed the first hurdle with dad..he is trying to be protective of his ONLY daughter :)

It's your day, have it the way you want and on the size of your pocket..don't go broke or be in debt you hear..take care... EKU PALEMO!

Mimi B said...

Your Dad said a lot of things that are really deep. I agree with Myne, concerning the part about you guys' conflict resolution. I never thought about it, but now that i do i can see its very important.

All the best on planning your wedding, can't wait to hear about all the drama and details tah go into planning a wedding.

I'm not surprised about the 5.5M wedding, that's the cost of a modestish wedding these days, as for all those ones on bellanaija...ahem! *cough* *cough* it is well : )

Tisha said...

Happy for you love
enjoy the ride!

Miss Enigma a.k.a UnderCover07 said...

Congrats!!!I'm such a sucker for love sotries the ups and the downs. Glad ur Dad finally gave his blessing! It is well dear. Just work within ur budget, and everything else will fall in place :)

@ilola said...

Well done on your preps and Thank God your Dad has given your his blessings. Abeg, spend small small.
Niways, It is your day, enjoy

Blessing said...

Awww...I'm glad that you sat down with your dad and everything was ironed out! And he asked great questions!

Yea weddings are expensive mehn! *sigh*

Amb Caleb said...

Congratulations.....

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gateway360 said...

now this is what I am talking about. This is the way its suppose to be. Happy for you lady. ...invite me to the wedding o .....lol

Okeoghene said...

Congrats.

Andrea said...

congratulations dear, very happy for you.

Jaycee said...

Awww...inheriting five sisters...that's wonderful. You've been blessed. Answered prayers, lol.

Sisi Yemmie ™ said...

congrats doll!!!!! Oya please i need that wedding spreadsheet too, can i get a copy? Im CBM at my friends wedding and she would appreciate it. lol. Thanks!!!!xxx

Lara said...

Congratulations....so happy for you.
5.5milla for wedding, na so the thing dey cost reach...well it depends on the family oh.

All the best babe and congratulations once again.

Stella Kodi said...

Congrats!!! woo hoo! but for 5.5M. it better be worth the happiness! Good luck with all that and the relationships are key to it all...

Lovely blog btw...

Ms. Yellow Sisi Unspoken said...

aww one of the best thing before marriage is to have parent's blessings and I'm happy your dad like him.

$5.5 million noh be small tin o heh

Good Naija Girl said...

All's well that ends well! Glad your dad is on board. I really like the questions your dad asked o...he's doing his duty as a responsible father to make sure you have considered all the important things.

I'm really so happy for you.

Wedding costs make me so stressed and I'm not even engaged yet!

J'Adore Fashion said...

It's nice that the talk went well! All the best!

xoxo
Stella

koinonia said...

Congratulations on your engagement. I absolutely love your take on the 5 sisters, So many other women I know would have cringed at the idea.

aeedeeaee said...

Congratulations Doll!

On that budget...errr...Honeydame, i'm with you on eloping lool.

Be happy gurlfriend! Daddy has blessed y'all, so has God too ;)

Adura Ojo (Naijalines) said...

All the best with the wedding. Gaining five sisters is definitely a great thing to look forward to.
Koinonia is right: most women would have cringed. But you know what they say: "start as you mean to go on". and you've got the best start with the right attitude:-)

cosmopolitandiva said...

weddings are so expensive in nigeria dear. a basic wedding can run up to 8M and this is with nothing special. i think a little time and bargain hunting will save a few thousands. Also u have to know what to save on and what to splurge on. When it comes to make-up and the dress there should be no pricing, go for the best because it is your day and everyone is coming to look at you! gluck hun