Friday, September 17, 2010

Insulating my heart

So the writer of one of the very few non 9ja blogs I read has been going through the aftermath of a failed relationship, which reminds me of the ordeal of literally feeling your heart breaking, the physical pain, the endless tears, the feeling inadequate, the depression, the discouragement, the disappointment.

Heartbreak is an awful thing…it is not what one can even wish an enemy…

But the good news is that it always passes…..just the way morning never fails to show up after every night.

When falling in love…it is always advisable to insulate your heart, to remember that always is not forever, I guess that may help lessen the inevitable ache if things don’t go as planned.

Every heart should be insulated….

….I know that….

Iv failed at this

I am falling for him already


It is kinda hard not to fall for a man that loves me (selflessly, generously, words fail me, so I will summarize it by saying) just right

What exactly is the point of love, if you don’t fall face flat into it completely without inhibition????

The point I am trying to make is that am really happy…I could get drunk on it..

How y’all doing?

41 comments:

Prism of an immigrant said...

I like the question you posed. What is the point of love if not to enjoy fully and in some ways become vulnerable. I don't know, that was how I used to look at it, until I fell on my face. Hehe. I now know that the heart is to be guarded jealously, even when we are in love, just to avoid the whole heart break cycle and feelings of inadequacy that come with it.

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Miss Enigma a.k.a UnderCover07 said...

It is hard to insulate your heart, and then claim to love or be in love. Like you said, when you fall it hurts but we pick ourselves up and do it all over again.

I don't think there's any amount of insulating that can stop a heart from hurting after a break-up. To experience it all (love) we have to let go of all inhibitions.

Enjoy all the love that you're getting dear...we all deserve it!

marilyn said...

you are either in love or not.you cant insulate ur heart,only your head.
how are u sweet?

Naijalines said...

I like Marilyn's take on this. Can't insulate the heart but the head. And that is what keeps us grounded.
Enjoy the flutter of the heart and have a lovely weekend, Missy.

@ Marilyn
Never heard it said that way b4. I like it. I like it a lot.

Myne Whitman said...

I'm so happy for you. Truly love is meant to be fully enjoyed or not at all.

Omotee! said...

marilyn is right on point.

fall flat, be vulnerable and be happy. think its love

ThirtyPlusGeek said...

Love - is based on being willingly vulnerable; trusting someone else I think.. Perhaps some hard-nosed pragmatism is also required though, ensuring the I's are dotted and the T's crossed.

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yankeenaijababe said...

The main thing is that you are happy which is awesome...So thankful for you

Fabulo-la said...

Yay!
She is happy!
Awwwwww babes!
Im soo happy to hear that ;)
Hope you are good?
xx

Nice Anon said...

Love is only for the brave who know how to balance the heart and the head.
Heartbreak is a bitch and I hope never to feel it again!

Being happy is great. bask in it and enjoy! Everyone deserves to be

CerebrallyBusy said...

I'm glad you're happy.

But i do think it's impossible to insulate your heart...especially one as emotional as mine...

anyway who am I to know?

LE DYNAMIQUE PROFESSEUR said...

Hmmmm... "When falling in love…it is always advisable to insulate your heart"

That is not love in the first place if one must insulate his/her heart before entering. lol

- LDP

Fragilelooks said...

if u must love, u must love freely. giving it ur all withour reservation even if i u fall flat on ur face again.

The Non-Student said...

I'm finding myself falling at least in deep "like" of a man, and it's scaring the crap out of me. But, luckily the fact that I'm still healing doesn't scare him. I know I'll get there eventually.

QMoney said...

Am particularly excited u are happy because after ur heartbreak,it's fulfilling to know u are capable of been totally in love,happy&at peace wit where u are again

I guess u can't insualte oh cos even when my hubby is driving me NUTS,i still love him dearly,pray 4him,dont wish him d slightest or anything xcpet i just always feel like slapping his face tho:):)

My world said...

While reading,I couldnt help but hum,
"did I ever say I'll love you forever?
as you know,sometimes,love can be intoxicating"
Lagbaja's new song.

I feel this post so much,love is intoxicating :))

~Sirius~ said...

Fall freely babe.....and let nature take it's course :-)

As for heartbreak, after going through one, I don't think I will ever let myself feel that way ever again.

mizchif said...

AWWWWWWW!
See i'm so happy to read this.
Really what is the point of it all if you can't fall freely, without inhibitions?

I pray you remain this happy.
All the best.

LG said...

yesso i pray u remain dis happy too

Seshe James said...

The reason someone would go into a relationship is to hope it last forever but not for a short period of time....Being in love is a good thing. Love Freely and enjoy the wonderful feeling. Heartbreaks happens but ther is someone special out there for each and every1(Dats what i believe) Glad to know you happy

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Nutty J. said...

You sound happy....good for you.

Heaven send me someone to love oooooooooo...

neefemi said...

awwww love is good... enjoy

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The nitty-gritty tales of a housewife said...

love? love? love?...how can we survive in this world without it?...makes life worth living when every other thing had failed...am happy for you...take care huh?

Rita said...

"the physical pain, the endless tears, the feeling inadequate, the depression, the discouragement, the disappointment...." you can say that again...heartbreak is as the name implies heart break...:-)

However, I will always tell any woman to give all of herself each time because she has the ability, and love is reciprocal.

flabby said...

is it really possible to 'insulate the heart' and completely fall in love at the same time?

AlooFar said...

what's a guy supposed to say nau?

ehn, lover babe?

Lara said...

enjoy the love while it last and even though some love might not be forever...it is worth the pains.

Blessing said...

Aww....I'm happy for you!!!!

Tisha said...

sweetie
ride on

2cute4u said...

Longgggg timmmmeee!

Yeah.. Put it like that and you could be so hopeful and Love could be a wonderful with the right person..
But, with the wrong person..
Run for shelter.

Zena said...

And in the end, the important point is YOUR HAPPY!!!! I wish you nothing but that Doll

NigerianDramaQueen said...

"If you don’t fall face flat into it completely without inhibition?"

-Exactly. I try to let go of rules and just love without inhibition. After all...what's the point if you don't?

Gee said...

love this post!!
plain but yet very deep--got me thinking!

Chic Therapy said...

hmmmmmm

WASParty said...

love is a beautiful thing esp with the right person.

Put your absolute trust in God and not in man even when in love.

happy for u

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ibiluv said...

enjoy the attention jareeeeee

you need am

Adiya said...

Ha! I suppose its never easy to practice what you preach lol! Yeah, there is absolutely nothing safe about falling in love! I confess, i never have- maybe it's cause i just can't let go enough to take the plunge for anybody. I keep wondering why i should let myself feel that for someone who is just human, you know? But that's just me, and i don't know what tomorrow brings :D

Good luck though xoxo

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MPB said...

I just got into a new relationship myself, and it is so hard to find a balance between self preservation and loving 100%. Ultimately, I guess one decides to take the risk as we humans have been created to love. Thanks for commenting on my blog. Take care.